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How do I choose my first vibrator?

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When I first walked into a sex shop, I crept in hoping nobody would spot me in there. I was worried that somehow, the world’s press would track me down and I would get snapped holding a giant dildo, which, of course, I would then be embarrassed into buying.

Walking into a sex shop for the first time can be so intimidating. There’s so much selection, and everyone else in the shop often seems to know exactly what they want. That first time, I had no idea. I was also worried that I wouldn’t be able to find anything that wouldn’t make my boyfriend feel, shall we say … inadequate? I was just about to scurry back out again and then I spotted it: My first vibrator. It was a pink clitoral stimulator with a twisting vibration function. It was perfect for me because it was discrete, simple and – best of all – small!

Unfortunately, you can’t try before you buy with vibrators, so it’s important to figure out what you want before you part with your money. Follow my handy beginner’s guide and you’re bound to find a vibrator that will give you hours of pleasure! 

The key is not to go for cheap and nasty products from dodgy online retailers – a toy that costs $2 is probably not something you want to put inside you. Although there’s a huge amount of choice, don’t get overwhelmed: choosing a sex toy should be as fun as using it. Look for a place that only stocks toys and look for a store that employs people who know what they’re talking about

Options For Your Very First Vibrator

As vibrator use becomes more widespread (currently, a little over half of all women have ever used a vibrator), women are growing more interested in buying quality products. There are a ton of crappy sex toys out there in the world, so taking your time and doing a bit of research is vital.

Arguably the most important factor in weighing up the efficacy of any vibe is the power and speed of the toy. Clitorises have 8,000 super-sensitive nerve endings in them, so having a vibrator that is blow-you-away powerful can, honestly, sometimes be too much. Vibrators are a very personal thing, so it’s important to find one you feel comfortable with. If you’re a first-timer, try looking for one that’s petite so you can get used to the sensation before moving on to something more adventurous! Think about what pushes your buttons best and buy one that’s specifically designed for your needs. Beyond pleasure-oriented functions and features, you should consider privacy. If you have kids or just thin walls, look for a vibrator that is extra quiet, so only you know what you’re up to!

Shopping for sex toys can be a lot like online dating: awkward, overwhelming, and a challenge that calls for separating the high-quality options from the duds. What’s the difference between remote-controlled and manually operated? Does the vibration pattern matter? And for goodness sake, does it actually have to look like a penis?

“Like any other luxury product, a sex-toy purchase should be well thought out, because when you invest in a sex toy, you’re investing in personal pleasure,” says Kathryn Catney, who represents the Swedish sex toy brand Lelo. It’s self-care at its finest.

A lot of vibrators will have different power settings, a variety of speeds, and some even have different pattern variations. The safest bet for first-timers is to opt for a vibe which has both low and high power settings so you can start slow and work your way up the speeds as you get more comfortable using it. If you’ve yet to buy a vibrator or are looking to upgrade, there are important points to consider. Here, experts break down what you need to know before choosing a vibrator. 

In our most recent test, we found that 68% of women openly discuss vibrators with their partner and an impressive 77% of participants told their friends that they were taking part. It’s clear to see that conversations about masturbation and vibrators are no longer being discussed in whispers and hushed tones.

“If you’re looking to experiment with G-spot stimulation, you’ll want a curved vibrator that can deliver a range of vibration speeds and intensities straight to your inner sweet spots. If you’re looking for a vibrator you can use with a partner, perhaps a smaller clitoral vibe will be better because it’s easier to wield in the heat of the moment. Identifying the area you want to stimulate and the way you’re going to be using your new toy is vital to picking the right vibrator for you.”

Vibrators are a great addition to any bedroom. Whether you’re single or in a relationship, they’re great for spicing things up or just adding a bit of extra pleasure when you’re on your own. Vibrators can also help those who have trouble reaching orgasm because they allow you to explore your body and find what really pushes your buttons!


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WHAT’S THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN A VIBRATOR AND A DILDO?

Well, it’s easy. A vibrator does just that, vibrates. Whereas a dildo doesn’t.

A dildo is more phallic, designed for penetration and comes in a range of materials to enhance pleasure, including rubber and glass. There are heaps of others on the market. Get the one that appeals to your senses .. and your naughty side. There’s a whole wide world of vibrators out there, so the first thing to think about is what kinds interest you. If you can narrow down your search to a specific type of vibrator, you can then find one in that category that meets your needs in terms of performance – and price. Here are the main types of vibrators on the market as well as the types of people they are likely to please the most.

Choose one in a “shaft shape” that can be used both internally and externally.

For someone using a vibrator for the first time, we recommend choosing one that you can experiment with using both externally on the clitoris and vulva, and internally, in the vagina. This allows you to experiment with vibration in a few different areas of your body, to find out where you like vibration. Some women like to use vibrators just on the clitoris; some like to use them just on the vaginal lips; some like to use them inside the vagina, and some like to use them in all three places, and more! You’ll never know what you like until you try it yourself. The shape that works the best for a variety of stimulation is a “shaft shape” – about 5-6″ long.

Buying your first vibrator can be an intimidating experience. For starters, there are so many kinds! How do you know which one is right for you? It’s not like you can return them if they don’t work out, like a pair of jeans that looked deceptively roomy on the rack, only to limit your mobility and use of your knees as soon as you try them on at home.

Internal vibrators can vary anywhere from one- to five-fingers size. External vibrators can range from three-inch bullets to large magic wands.

Anal vibrators tend to be a bit smaller or have multiple sizes as the anus takes a bit longer — and more lubricant — to open up. Penis-focused vibrators often stretch to accommodate different shaft sizes.

 Consider size

With options including large wand-like vibrators and discreet ones that fit in the palm of your hand out there, it can be tough to anticipate which size is going to bring you the most pleasure if you’re a first-timer. “There’s so much to choose from,” says Holly Richmond, PhD, a somatic psychologist and certified sex therapist. “When we have so many choices, we get overwhelmed and feeling overwhelmed leads to anxiety—the exact opposite of pleasure.” But don’t fret—Richmond’s got the solution.

Consider what you enjoy most when you masturbate and have sex, she suggests. If pleasuring yourself with one finger does the trick, a large or penis-looking vibrator might pack a little too much punch or stimulate way too many areas at once. On the other hand, if your partner is well-endowed or if the strap-on you use during sex isn’t lacking size-wise, bigger just might be better. And if the urge to O tends to suddenly come over you, you might opt for a tiny-but-mighty toy you can disguise as a necklace and whip out in a bathroom for an afternoon delight. (Hey, who’s judging?)

“This may seem straightforward, but judging the size of a toy isn’t always easy, especially when you’re shopping online,” Sammi told Goodhousekeeping.co.uk

“Check the measurements on the product’s description, and if it’s your first time buying a vibrator, grab a tape measure and find a product in your house that has the same dimensions. If you have other sex toys, check the dimensions against those to compare.

“Remember, too, it’s not just length that you need to think about – the girth of an internal sex toy plays an even more important role because you can alter how much of the length you use in play, but you can’t really change the girth.”

Choose one made from a hard material, like hard plastic

“With the adult industry constantly evolving and innovating to fit consumer needs better, there’s a wide variety of materials that you can now choose from when it comes to your vibrator. While most sex toys are thoroughly tested to be entirely body-safe, the best material for your sex toy is silicone as it is non-porous, phthalate-free, easy to clean and comfortable to use – and it’s eco- and vegan-friendly too!” Lili advises.

“Toys made of silicone are safe to use with water-based lubricants (NOT with silicone-based lubricants though as it may lead to material degradation) and can be easily cleaned with warm water or toy cleaner. The smooth texture of silicone also tends to be more comfortable (firm but soft) when inserted so can suit beginners, too.”

Though it may not seem like having a hard-shelled vibrator would be comfortable on your genitals, hard material is actually an advantage. Why? Because it allows you to feel the full range of vibrations your vibrator has. If you get a vibrator with a soft surface, the vibrations will be muted. 

Silicone: One of the most common materials used is silicone. It feels super-soft and has skin-safe properties. For extra security, many brands use “medical grade silicone”, this is a silicone that has been tested for biocompatibility to ensure that the material does not become toxic when exposed to bodily fluids, and as such suitable for use in medical devices. Rest assured though; vibrators made of silicone that don’t say “medical grade” are still body-safe.

Jelly rubber: Soft and slightly pliable, jelly rubber – when used to make vibrator – is designed to mimic the feel of skin. A less expensive alternative to silicone, but if you have a latex allergy, steer clear.

ABS: Acrylonitrile butadiene styrene (ABS) is a sturdy, non-porous plastic that is easily moulded then set into shape – LEGO is made from ABS for example. Firm but smooth, ABS is the material to look out for if you prefer harder vibrators.

Avoid anything containing phthalates (chemicals used to increase flexibility) as these chemicals have links to health risks. Look for the ‘phthalate-free’ certification on the box. Silicone, skin-safe rubber and hard plastic products do not contain phthalates. None of the vibrators that we’ve reviewed contains phthalates.

Any product made of TPR, TPE and any ‘realistic feel’ materials needs thorough cleaning after use as they are more porous than harder plastics and silicone, which makes them more susceptible to bacterial growth.

Some feel that hard-shelled vibrators are just too intense, but we encourage you to remember that it’s always easier to decrease a vibrator’s intensity than it is to increase it. If your vibrator feels too intense, you can always vibrate it over a towel, blanket, or hand to mute the vibration. If it isn’t intense enough, however, there isn’t anything you can do to make it more intense. “Silicone is a favourite, and many well-known brands use only medical-grade silicone,” says Cavanah. Silicone “transmits vibration well and it’s non-porous [meaning no toxic materials will get trapped inside and make their way into your body] and easy to clean with soap and water, making it healthy and safe for the body.” Other great options include metal, stainless steel, and hard plastic.

Important note about silicone toys: Make sure to only use water-based lube on them as silicone bonds with silicone and will turn your toys into goop.

For those looking to spend less money, there’s another body-safe material called ABS plastic that’s also non-porous, but not as soft as silicone.

Certain metals such as silver and gold are also safe, but these products tend to be more expensive. The No. 1 rule when it comes to the material is to avoid jelly-like vibrators at all costs. They’re porous and will hold bacteria, making them unsafe for the genitals.

Types of vibrator

  • Internal vibrators. These are inserted into the vagina, typically for those who enjoy penetration and G-spot stimulation. Internal vibrators are often — but not always — long cylinders, ideal for hitting the G-spot or mimicking a penis if that’s your goal.
  • External vibrators. They’re used on the clitoris and labia, for those who either prefer no penetration or who need clitoral stimulation during penetration, either with or without a partner. The look of external vibrators can vary, but they’re often not cylindrical to cover more surface area.
  • Combo vibrators. These have a combo of internal and external stimulation and are often called rabbit vibrators because of their shape. Combo vibrators look like dildos with an added arm to hit both the G-spot and clitoris at the same time.
  • Anal vibrators. These vibrators are different from internal vibrators because they have a base so they don’t get lost or stuck.
  • Penis-focused vibrators. These vibrating cock rings, such as the PlusOne vibrating ring, are excellent for those with a penis who struggle with arousal or who want to add to the stimulation they feel during sex or masturbation.

Narrow down your ideal shape and sensation

Once you’ve settled on width and length, bring size and sensation into the equation. Zeroing in the sensation you want will help determine the best shape for your vibrator.

There are five types of pleasure sensations people tend to seek out, says Richmond: internal, clitoral, an internal-clitoral combo, anal, and double penetration (vaginal + anal). And since the minds behind vibrators know pleasure comes from many a locale, they’ve created tons of uniquely shaped toys that can adapt to just about anything you’re looking for.

“Some folks don’t care about the colour and appearance of their vibrator, but there’s nothing wrong with wanting to find your newest pleasure purchase attractive,” says Rose.

“Acknowledging your preferences when it comes to colour (I know people who swear by all pink sex toys), shape and feel are sensible. The truth is if you don’t like the way something looks you’re way less likely to use it.”

Combination – or rabbit – vibrators are ideal for women who are stimulated by both clitoral contact and vaginal penetration, achieving what is otherwise known as a blended orgasm. Some combination vibrators look like a G-spot vibrator but have a small vibrating rabbit on top. Others are more abstract. They have a shaft and clitoral stimulator but aren’t as detailed as those with a rabbit. Some are adjustable and can be manoeuvred into place allowing for hands-free fun.

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Choosing your vibrators power source

Did you know until a few years ago, hardly anyone searched for mains-powered vibrators? Since that little book, Fifty Shades of Grey, now everyone wants to know what is the mains-powered wand Christian used on Ana…and the answer is a Magic Wand Massager. 

Batteries

Pros

  • No need to wait for your vibrator to charge – just pop the correct batteries in and you’re instantly ready to go
  • Easy to travel with – just remove the batteries to avoid it turning on when you don’t want it to
  • Battery-powered vibrators tend to be more discreet

Cons

  • The batteries are an added expense
  • Some vibrators require obscure and difficult to find batteries

Rechargeable

Pros

  • The charge lasts a long time
  • Rechargeable vibrators are often more powerful
  • No need to buy replacement batteries

Cons

  • Rechargeable vibrators tend to be more expensive
  • You have to wait for it to charge before you can use it which can be especially annoying if it runs out of battery while using it
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Remote controlled and app-enabled vibrators

  • Some vibrators, particularly those designed for couples, offer different methods of control. Remote control vibrators are exactly what the name suggests; they come with a separate device that offers short-range control. For couples, this allows you to put your partner in control or they are a hands-free option.
  • App-controlled vibrators are a brilliant option for long-distance couples as they can be controlled from anywhere as long as you have a wi-fi connection. More advanced than remote-controlled vibrators, some app-controlled models have features that allow you to customise your own speeds and patterns. 

Choose one that has multiple intensity levels, from low to high.
Because you don’t know how intense you like your vibration, it’s good to get a vibrator that has a range of speeds from low to high. This way, you can experiment with different intensities to see what you like best. Some women like mild stimulation all the time; some women like intense stimulation all the time; some women like mild, then intense; and on and on. The possibilities are endless.

Here are some great recommendations:

  • If you enjoy being stimulated across your vulva, you might enjoy broader vibrations with toys that have a bigger surface area.
  • If you enjoy only certain parts stimulated, you may enjoy a more targeted vibrator with a smaller surface area.
  • If you enjoy constant stimulation, you’ll want a motor that runs consistently, which is luckily most vibrators.
  • If you prefer a certain pattern, such as short pulses or a pattern of pauses, you’ll want a vibrator that offers settings.
  • If you want the element of vibrating and thrusting, there are some that stimulate penetrative sex.

 Educate Yourself About Safety

Something that not a lot of people know about the sex toy industry is that it’s highly unregulated. Many companies use legal loopholes to weasel out of having to use materials that are actually safe for the body.

Two easy guidelines to follow are to avoid any toys that say “for novelty use only,” or that have a strong chemically smell. The phrase “for novelty use only” means the manufacturer is billing their product as something that will never actually be used in or on the body. A chemical scent is usually a sign that unsafe chemicals like phthalates have been used

The spectrum of features is endless, I’m talking waterproof toys, ones capable of vibration and suction sensations, those that are remote operated, and some that sync with your fave playlist and vibrate to the beat.

Do you like it hard, or soft? 

Vibrators are made with different materials, and while it might not seem like it matters, it definitely does. Most are made from either rubber, plastic or silicone.

A rubber vibe is squishy and is the perfect material for the popular ‘Rabbit’ model first made famous by Sex & The City, because it lets the vibrations travel through the ears, directed at stimulating the clitoris while the shaft of the vibrator works on hitting your G-spot. It wouldn’t be a vibrator guide without the Rabbit. “It was so wildly popular when it had its Sex and the City moment,” says Doan, explaining that the Rabbit became infamous when Charlotte York locks herself in her room to use the Rabbit for a whole weekend on the show. “That was an explosive moment for women understanding that vibration is really amazing.” Rabbit vibrators are the all-stars of the vibrator world, as they do pretty much everything! Rabbits generally come with a shaft for penetration and G-spot stimulation. Some shafts also rotate or include rotating beads, which provides even more stimulation and sensation. The key part of a rabbit vibrator is its little rabbit ears, which are designed to gently tease the clitoris while the shaft of the vibrator does the internal work. If you orgasm from your G-spot and your clitoris, or you don’t know but are keen to experiment, then a rabbit might be for you. They are much better for solo play because they aren’t very flexible and can be quite big, so you might want to consider buying something else if you know you’re going to play as a pair. Plastic vibes are hard and often used for G-spot stimulation because they’re more solid and precise, while silicone is used in premium vibes because it’s silky and warms up quickly for ultimate pleasure potential.

Clitoral vibrators do one thing and one thing only: stimulate your clitoris. They’re normally pretty compact and won’t work inside you. Lots of them come with different functions that increase vibrations or vibrate in different rhythms. Another externally used vibrator, the clitoral vibrator is made to provide pin-point pleasure to your clitoris. Stimulation of the clitoris is the easiest way for most women to reach climax. Clitoral vibrators are often the shape of a large egg, making them easy to hold. Clitoral stimulators are a new kind of vibrator. They don’t really vibrate, they use a kind of air suction which rushes blood to the clitoris and allows you to come very quickly. You just place it over your clitoris and come in under 5 minutes! Very pleasurable indeed! Womanizer and Satisfyer are the most popular brands, now LELO has joined in with Sona.

Bullet vibes are the ultimate pocket rocket! They’re small enough to fit into your handbag; some are even disguised as things like lipstick to save your blushes if you accidentally drop it in public. They are normally purely clit stimulators and can be very cheap but still powerful. They’re another great toy for first-timers, and for those who are looking for a vibrator designed to travel. It is called a bullet because its shape resembles a bullet. Most are about the height of your palm so they are good travel companions. Bullet vibrators are used externally, providing clitoral stimulation.

They might look a bit strange, but butterfly vibrators can be loads of fun! They’re great if you want to be hands-free, and the vibrator may be internal or external, depending on the model. Great if you want to have a bit of fun while doing the housework!

If you want to hand over your pleasure to someone else, then a remote-control vibrator is for you. For all you techies out there, you can even get wireless versions, so you don’t even have to be in the same room – or country – as your lover! Usually compact and easy to use, remote-control vibes are great for couples.

Whichever material you end up using, it’s important to pay attention to what lube you use. For example, silicone lube and silicone vibes do NOT mix, so be careful to read the description label on each bottle when choosing one to pair with your vibrator.

Magic wand massager, Is it a massager or a vibrator? Well, it’s both. It can be used for all-over body massage, but it also vibrates and the round head makes it awesome for clitoral stimulation. In fact, the reason it is so popular is that most magic wands are mains powered making them rather powerful. With an attachment, it can be used internally.

Couples vibrator, These are usually vibrators that are worn to stimulate both partners during sex. They include vibrating cock rings (worn by the man), finger vibrators, and the u-shaped couples vibes like We-Vibe. Most of these vibes provide clitoral stimulation during sex to make it easier to achieve an orgasm at the moment.

Realistic vibrators are those that resemble a penis. They usually have veins, glans and other extrusions that stimulate the walls of your vagina. We sell realistic vibrators in flesh tones and a range of colours, which makes them not to phallic.

“If you don’t want the fact that you use and own a vibrator to be common knowledge, it’s best to consider how loud the vibe is when switched on at its highest setting, and how easy it’ll be to stash away,” Rose told us.

“Should you want the rest of your household to remain oblivious to your vibrator use, look for a vibe that’s listed as ‘whisper quiet’. A lot of luxury vibes pride themselves on using near-silent motors because they understand that discretion is often an important factor.”

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Stock up on cleaning supplies.

Since rubbing your vibrator down with a bleached wipe and inserting it into yourself is a one-way ticket to irritation, or worse, infection, when it comes to cleaning your device, stick to gentle body soap (nothing antibacterial) and water. It will always do the trick.

And if you want to take cleansing up a notch, you can go for a specialized sex-toy cleaner. Most are alcohol-free and paraben-free sprays that you can leave on your vibrator for five minutes and rinse off (if it’s waterproof—otherwise, use a damp cloth), says Richmond. Be sure to clean your toy after every use, she adds.

Safe-sex practices are important whether with a partner or on your own. Ensuring that your toys are clean keeps infections at bay and can improve the life-span of your bedroom-drawer buddy. Thankfully, cleaning your sex toys is very easy.

Wash your toy with unscented, anti-bacterial soap, warm water, and a damp cloth before and after use. Many sex toy sites and shops sell their own specialist anti-bacterial cleaner that can be bought alongside your vibrator. Make sure it is completely dry (air drying is best) before storing it on its own in the box it arrived in. If you no longer have the box, we suggest investing in a silk or satin bag to avoid dust.

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Buying a vibrator online

If the thought of discussing the pros and cons of sex toys with a stranger is all too much, the easier and more popular option is to buy online, and the choice is limitless. Reputable online stores include: Lala land the adult gift store

You may not have the benefit of a salesperson, but you have something far more genuine: product reviews! Make sure you read through them before hitting buy. All online shops will send your goodies in anonymous packaging, so Mr Postie will be none-the-wiser.

“Depending on your preference, you can choose between battery-operated and rechargeable vibrators. Rechargeable vibrators come with a charger that can either be plugged into the mains or to a USB port (either on your computer or with a converter to the mains). This is an environmentally-friendly option that is also convenient and fits in seamlessly with our super-connected lives,” explains Lili.

“Frequently replacing batteries in toys can be costly and even difficult with certain obscure battery-types, so recharging technology might also be a more economical solution for you,” she adds.

“Battery-operated toys, on the other hand, have the advantage that – as long as you have a good supply at home – you never have to wait around for your toys to become available for use. And if your heart is set on a battery-operated toy but you also wish to remain green and sustainable, then you can always invest in a rechargeable battery to keep your vibrators going.”

Travel lock

If you plan to travel with your vibrator, knowing that it’s not going to unexpectedly turn on is helpful. Not all vibrators have a travel lock though, so if you’re a frequent flyer or are constantly on the road, this is something to look out for. If you’re shopping in-store, try out the travel lock before buying to ensure you know how to turn it on, and more importantly turn it off.

If you have a battery-operated vibrator, we advise taking the battery out. This is a good way to avoid any embarrassing moments. If you’re travelling with a rechargeable vibrator that doesn’t have a travel lock, we suggest draining the battery completely and recharging when you can.

How loud is a vibrator

If you are concerned about being overheard, look for ‘whisper-quiet’ vibrators, though take this claim with a pinch of salt. Check whether the product description gives the decibel level – anything 40db or below is exceptionally quiet. As a rough guide, the sound of an average whisper is about 30db and average speech volume is about 60db. If you’re browsing vibrators in a shop, make sure you turn it onto the highest speed setting to get a true idea of the volume.

Couple’s vibrators

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If you’re in a relationship and looking to increase both pleasure and intimacy, consider experimenting with a sex toy created with partnered play in mind. Far from being a sign that your intimacy is somehow lacking, using pleasure products with your partner shows that you’re open to exploration and adventure. Shopping for a toy together can even count as foreplay. Browse together online from your bed, or have an adventurous date at your local adult store.

Playing with others is fun, and love is cool. But if you’re single or coupled, remember that you can use these toys on your own as well. There are also options for all bodies, from cock rings to G-Spot and prostate stimulation, to clitoral pleasure. To help you and your boo come together, we’ve chosen a selection of our favourite couples toys. From cock rings that can be work on bio penises and strap-on dildos alike, to vibrators worn on your partner’s finger, to riding crops for those looking to explore BDSM, these toys cater to a range of preferences and budgets. We’ve also added a selection of vibrators worn inside the vagina that basically turn your vagina into a vibrator, for all parties to enjoy. You might just choose to stay in for your next date night.

Somewhere along the line, an unfortunate number of men have developed the concern that bringing gadgetry into the bedroom means they’re sexually deficient in some way. Don’t be one of them! The majority of women need clitoral stimulation (rather than only penetration) in order to orgasm—so unless you have a go-go gadget penis, penetrative sex alone isn’t going to get a woman off (though, yes, she still likes it). Adding a vibrator to the mix proves you know how the female body works, and that you care about how much she enjoys the festivities. It also lets her know you’re sexually adventurous. These are all very attractive qualities in a sex-haver.

The corollary to men avoiding sex toys is that penises are majorly underserved when it comes to selection. For that reason, most of these models have clitorises in mind. On the plus side, there’s a wide variety—from vibrators that double as high-end jewellery to couples’ toys to prostate pleasures, we’ve found tested-and-proven picks for giving everyone involved the gift of an orgasm.

In our most recent vibrator test, we found that 68% of couples surveyed openly discuss vibrators and sex toys in their relationship. If you’re looking to introduce sex toys to the bedroom to enhance your sex life, there a few options to consider. Couple’s vibrators can come in the form of any of the above designs – vaginal, clitoral, or combination. Some are discreet insertable vibrators. Others are remote- or even app-controlled, offering short and long-range control.

Before purchasing, consider what you and your partner want from a sex toy. If you’re looking for shared pleasure, choose a vibrator with a slim and flexible design – these will easily sit between you both when having sex. If you like the idea of putting your partner in control, opt for a vibrator with a short-range remote control. Or if you’re in a long-distance relationship, app-controlled vibrators are a great option. These can be controlled from anywhere in the world and some even allow you to create customised patterns and speeds.

 So buy them together! Make sure you’re on the same page and everybody is comfortable – create a wishlist and then add to it and see what you like.

The key is to just have fun. Don’t let Victorian-era attitudes about sex stop you from having a great time and discovering all the things your body loves. 

If you’re part of a couple and you want to improve your sex life or add a bit of excitement, try a couples vibrator or a vibrating cock ring. If you want to try something a bit kinky try a couples kit – they come with a mix of products.

A couples vibrator works as you’d think it does – you use it during penetrative sex. These vibrators are usually shaped like a U – one side of the U goes into you and the other side stays out. If you’re having sex with someone with a penis, they’ll feel the side that is inside your body with every stroke and, ideally, the other side will rest against your clitoris ensuring you have clitoral stimulation.  The Rabbit Couple Vibe is the most popular version of this.

Do you need a waterproof vibrator

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Most newer vibrators are waterproof. Waterproof means it can be submerged in the bath or a swimming pool.

Make sure you read the waterproof description carefully as some of the products are only splash-proof which means they can’t be submerged but you can generally run a damp cloth over them for cleaning.

Waterproof vibrators are usually easier to clean as you can pop them into a sink of very hot water.

If you are going to be using your vibrator in water and need lubricant, then you will be needing oil or silicone-based lube. Water-based lubricants are water-soluble so dissolve in water.

Go! Buy a vibrator!

In the end, finding the perfect vibrator for you is a journey and it doesn’t have to be one-stop. Starting with a cheaper vibrator provides lots of options to find what you love and then invest in a more suited-to-you toy. Better yet, visit your local sex-positive sex store and test out a few vibrators on your hand to get a feel for the sensation. Beginners should start out by asking about price, size, and versatility. 

Don’t question buying a vibrator or see it as an unnecessary luxury. Sex and orgasms are as natural as the trees outside your window. Anything that will make you feel good without relying on another person is an investment in your well-being and your health. Happy vibrating!